'I would have invited Amanda if I wanted her there': Bride revokes brother's plus one after discovering he invited toxic girl best friend over long-term girlfriend, sends separate invite to girlfriend instead

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    r/AmltheAsshole 1 day ago EmptyEarth507 • AITA for taking away my brother's plus one and inviting his girlfriend myself?
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    I kind of know I am the to know how bad it was. but I need My brother is 29 and has been with Lia for about 2 years. We all like her; she is super nice. I am getting married next April and sent an invite to my brother's apartment. We
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    decided to send invites to households and not individuals. For example, our aunt received an invite for her family and not for each individual. Last Thursday, we met at my parents' place. It was just the core family because of some tax reasons, lol. While there, I asked my
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    brother about Lia's dietary restrictions. I know that she is a vegetarian for health reasons and that she cannot have certain raw vegetables. He said that she wasn't going to come and that he was taking his girl best friend, Amanda, instead. Now, their relationship is
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    weird af. Amanda has always been stringing my brother along, in my opinion. He always denies having feelings for her, but let's be real here. Amanda would date other guys, blow off my brother, then when things were on the decline with her partners, she would be attached to him again. Her last boyfriend
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    broke up with her right around the time my brother, his then ex-girlfriend, Amanda, and her ex were supposed to travel to Spain. What did my idiot brother do? Go with Amanda alone because Amanda was uncomfortable with his ex-girlfriend. Obviously, he acted blindsided when his
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    girlfriend broke up with him. I didn't even say anything anymore because it's all so weird. So, when he said that, I asked if Lia already had other plans. But my brother said that Amanda had asked if she could come because it would be an opportunity to
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    finally see the old gang (we were in the same friend group in high school). I told him that I would have invited Amanda if I wanted her there. Amanda is mean and cold. She always makes disparaging comments about other girls. At every event, around one hour in, she will make some sort of scene that either has her running away
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    crying or sitting mad at a table telling everyone to "leave her alone" and then making a cryptic comment about something "hurting her." I told my brother I was revoking his plus one and Amanda was NOT coming to our wedding. He accused me of being
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    misogynistic and bigoted because I don't understand opposite- friendships. Which is BS. My husband has a female childhood friend who is his best woman. I love her too and she has been amazing. AND SHE RESPECTS BOUNDARIES. She always includes me and made a huge effort when I started dating my fiancé to integrate me into the friend group.
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    Anyway, I said my decision was final. He could take it or leave it, but I would be inviting Lia myself because I like her. He screamed at me and told me to keep out of his business. I said to get rid of his weird feelings for Amanda. He is mad at
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    me. My dad said is none of our deal. My mom is furious with my brother. So Aita? Edit: to answer some questions The invite was addressed to the "smith's." Funnily enough, Lia had the same last name as us. Granted, we have one of the most common last names.
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    Yes, they live together. The tax thing is nothing huge. My parents have a small buisness but are really bad at keeping track of all their receipts. So every month we go and help them. We digitalis the receipts and put them in a bookkeeping software for the accountant Amanda is in the comments. Say hi!
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    Prudent Fold190 • 1d ago Certified Proctologist [22] NTA I have think bottom line is you don't want Amanda at your wedding because she causes a scene and brings a negative energy. I think you are well within your right to say she is not allowed at the wedding. You can invite Lia yourself but by the sounds of your brothers behaviour who knows if they will even still be together by then. Even if they are I wouldn't count on her sticking around if he keeps prioritizing Amanda over her.
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    PlaceDue1063 1d ago NTA; primarily because you say you intentionally did NOT invite Amanda and that you two no longer get along, despite previously sharing a friend group. He doesn't get to bring someone intentionally not invited to your wedding. Unfortunately you can't control his obsession with Amanda and he likely has to keep destroying relationships before he finally gets that he is prioritizing her over his relationships.
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    Silmariel ΝΤΑ • 1d ago But just to be safe, tell Lia she is invited even if she isnt with your brother anymore at the time of the wedding because "lets be real here" she can do alot better and its just a matter of time before she realises that and dumps him. Let Lia have a +1 so she can enjoy herself :) That would make her feel truely welcome. Your brother is a major and I dont ' blame you at all for not wanting his side piece at your wedding. I also wouldnt blame you if you didnt want him at yo
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    ABeerAndABook . 1d ago Professor Emeritass [73] NTA. Rescind brother's and invite Lia instead. Let her use the plus one at her discretion.
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    starkcattiness4433 • 1d ago Enthusiast [8] Your brother is a real pr*ck. He's going to be single again very soon unless he learns to consider and appreciate his partners. But I don't see that happening, based on his reaction to Princess Amanda not being invited. But quite apart from that, you have the right to disinvite unpleasant people from your wedding. Brother can pound sand. NTA
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    PlantMamaV • 1d ago • Edited 3h ago No. And your dad is wrong, it is your business who comes to your wedding.
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    Visual-Base-9359 • 1d ago Nta because you gave the plus one assuming his gf is coming, not ur "common friend" aka his female friend who he loves but is being stupid about" person. Like you said, if u wanted miss girlie amanda to come you wouldve invited her sooo nope. Nta

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